I'm marrying the one

 The knot.com says there are 65 more days before I get to marry my man!

You know it is a new generation of relationships when we constantly send each other Instagram reels that highlight our goofiness, define our feelings, and accurately represent who we are together. 

Our relationship's foundation is rooted in the modern. We found each other on a dating app. First, we saw 3 initial photos and a few facts. By both "swiping right," we were matched. Text message conversations started. Sean always checked in with me after work, and I felt so special to wake up to a "good morning message." 

While planning our wedding, we each took some time, separately, to write our own version of "how it started & how it is going" We posted it to our wedding website, but I also want to share it here. 

Sean: I was working nonstop and had tried all the apps and failed miserably. I had said I would give Hinge a final try, and if nothing came, I was destined for the bachelor life forever! After a few weeks of nothing, I was finally matched with Rani, a beautiful woman who, from brief descriptions and lovely photos, seemed not like the rest. I sent the first message and waited to see if I was to be ghosted like all the rest. At last, she replied. Not to sound too eager, I waited 3 hours to respond. After a few weeks of back and forth, we finally exchanged phone numbers and texted each other daily, which led to the "first date." We decided to go on a hike, and I was nervous. Waiting at the trailhead, I finally saw her in an unforgettable outfit! Carhartt trail legging with the brown knee pads sewn in. (Don't worry; I have destroyed said item not to scare small children any longer.) We made the loop, and the conversation still continues to this day. We enjoy camping, cooking, museums, and anything to do with Western themes. She is the perfect yin to my yang, which is why you are all here reading this now as we look forward to our sharing our lives together forever.

Rani:

Picture the scene. It’s the age of online dating. Tinder, Bumble, Hinge. All that comes with selecting your profile photos, swiping right and left, awkward initial text messages, even more awkward first encounters in “safe locations” like a coffee shop or public park. By early 2020 I had had my share of failed dating attempts. Then came Sean. He was different. He sent me the “good morning” texts, (oooh, that means he’s thinking of me!) the daily check-ins, making the mundane day-to-day have greater value since I got to share it with him. Those early days, I had to put our first in-person meeting on pause since my family was visiting from out of town. 

Then in early February 2020, we met in person. I suggested we do one of my favorite local hikes. We met up at the trailhead and immediately started swapping stories. We bonded over a love of camping, nature, and bemoaned how much of our time our jobs demanded of us. 

The Pandemic that spread fear throughout the country and the greater world, rocked our fledgling relationship as well. We stopped seeing each other in person. But kept up a constant stream of text messages and photos. After about 2 weeks, we agreed that we really did want to be together and would be a part of each other’s bubble. 

We now go on annual trips to a friend’s cabin in Desolation Wilderness. We spend almost every evening together cooking dinner in the kitchen. We enjoy trivia games. We battle it out on the mini golf course for the lowest score. We survived managing a bathroom remodel together while living in a one-bedroom condo. We prioritize being around for our families and have loved bonding with the nephews on each side! Sean has found his way into a special place in my extended family’s hearts and mine.

Camping with Tentment

Camping 2xs in one week? YES PLEASE!

On the chalk board wall in the kitchen of my apartment had been a long explanation of some event planned for 5/9-5/10. Of course because it was all in Japanese, I could only read: "onigiri" (rice balls), and the times that planned out some sort of schedule for Saturday and Sunday. Asking about it, turned out that the apartment was planning a camp out at the base of mount Fuji, and better yet, there was still room on the bus and I was quickly invited to join. HELL YES!

For the total price of 15,000 yen (about $135) each, we chartered a private bus, had plenty of food, and all the needed camping equipment for the one-night/2-day camp out! 

We left early morning on Saturday. I packed warm clothes, a sleeping bag, pillow, sleeping pad, and toiletries. All the other supplies were a combination of shared apartment items as well as donated items by some extremely avid campers! 

I have never camped in such luxury and with such a well planned out schedule. From bus games, meal plans, campfire dancing, team building activities, birthday celebrations, and a constant supply of beer. 

The team on Saturday afternoon. You can just barely make out Fuji-san through the fog and misty cloud.

Team challenges! Losing team had to cook breakfast the next morning.

A better glimpse of Fuji-san, and one of several large tee-pee tents.

Amazing food all day and night long!! There must have been at least 4 gas stoves going cooking onion soup, miso soup, and mulled wine, along with 3-4 BBQ grills cooking spare ribs and sausages, 2 dutch ovens (prepared in the pioneer fashion) cooking 2 whole chickens with rice and veggies. 

Early morning view of our camp.

Glorious Fuji-san on Sunday morning.

Must have a jumping photo!! From left to right, Erina, Kana and me.

The group was up for anything! So of course a sleeping bag jumping photo which had to be retaken at least 10 times- see our fail at jumping in sync!

After packing up on Sunday morning, we spent the afternoon at the onsen. Relaxing warm waters, great showers, and delicious curry, soba or udon lunch. 

Sun salutation- yoga on our camping trip-

Its Golden Week! That means a slew of national holidays and a 5 day vacation! Hurray.

My friend, Teneal, and I headed out on Saturday night by shinkansen (bullet train) to Osaka (south west of Tokyo). We stayed there the night, then trained and bused out towards Lake Biwa and Shiga prefecture to hike in Kusatsu.

It turned out to be a great way to avoid the crowds traveling around this time of year! In fact, no one was camping with us- we had the place to ourselves and rarely saw day hikers on our 2 days of hiking. perhaps the rain thwarted any but the most die-hards!

We enjoyed our hikes tremendously and incorporated the Sun Salutation Yoga series into the day! Below is the series- taken out of order, but pasted together here for you.

Starting pose:

Forward Bend...

Half bend

Downward facing dog...

High plank

Low plank

Upward facing dog

Low lunge

Namaste

MOVING time

Moving weekend finally arrived. My old Eda apartment friends and I had a farewell dinner and hang out on Friday. Potluck style, everyone cooked a dish and brought beer, wine, champagne and whiskey. It was rather bittersweet. I really enjoyed hanging out with these people. Aside from always having someone to greet you when you get home and eat dinner with, I've been snowboarding, camping, hiking, karaoke-ing, exercising, sight-seeing, picnicking, and roller-coaster riding with these people. Hopefully its not a final goodbye. There are already plans for meet-ups later on. I hope some of these people stick around in my life longer. 

 They absolutely loved my Zumba class! So we had one final 2+ hour finale. So much fun- so much positive energy, cheers, laughter and craziness.

On moving day, they surprised me with a memory book- where most of them had signed and written a small memory and message to me. I was touched. 

Although I originally arrived in Japan 2.5 years ago with only 2 suitcases, I have definitely amassed more stuff! 

Luckily it fit snugly in the back half of this little box of an eco-navi car I rented. My friend, Teneal has a Japanese drivers license and the two of us filled one load and drove the just under 1 hour route to my new apartment. Other people (both old and new) helped to load and unload it on each end. The crazy thing about this eco-navi car was that anytime the car was idling, it would turn itself off. So, as soon as she put her foot on the accelerator, we would hear the ignition- this happened very frequently! Rather annoying- but super gas saving as we only used 5 litres traveling over 72km. (thats 45 miles/gallon)

My new room- partially unpacked at my new social apartment: Shirokane-Takanawa. (click on the link to see photos of the shared space). 

My commute this morning was a breeze. I got to sleep in a full 40 minutes longer than previously, and the ride was short and not crowded! What more could I ask for? Now, I just have to start making some new friends. 

But I leave for Malaysia on Wednesday, so maybe it will have to wait. 

Birthday weekend

I turned 31 last Thursday and got to celebrate my birthday for several days! At school my students were on quite good behavior all day and there weren't any of the daily tears! Jo, the 1st grade teacher, (she and I combine our classes together a lot) made the collage below with all the 1st and 2nd graders. (One student is missing because of illness). In fact, last week we had students out on various different days- influenza was going around as well as a stomach bug that caused diarrhea and vomiting. (I was never affected, hoping it stays that way). In typical January fashion, the day was grey, cold and wet. But with my all-weather boots from Dans, I stayed toasty dry. That evening, Jo, Ran (my supervisor) and I went out to celebrate at a small Italian restaurant down the street. The tiramisu was quite delicious! 

 This poster was a gift from my co-workers- a street scene in Kyoto (which will look wonderful in my new apartment- post about that soon!). 

On Saturday, I celebrated with a great group of friends- chosen specially because they are not afraid to eat! We dined at an all-you-can-eat Brazilian BBQ restaurant. For 2 hours we had a constant stream of waiters stopping by our table with choice cuts of beef, chicken, even grilled pineapple and cheese and with their incredibly sharp knives, would load our plates up. There were salad bar fixings as well, but we were here for the meat. It was absolutely delicious and we were quite proud of ourselves for making the relatively expensive dining cost worth it! (Many of us had fasted earlier in the day in preparation). 

From left to right, Romica (my ballroom dancing friend who lives on the military base with her husband and son), Jaimee (we met working at the English language school and enjoy rock climbing and swimming together), Katy (we've been friends since I moved to Japan and hang out most weekends), me, Ces (originally from the Philippines, but lived in San Jose for many years, we met through Crossfit), Teneal (originally from Australia, we also met through Crossfit). They are a fantastic group of women and we had a really enjoyable evening together full of laughs. Notice how the meat was definitely the center of attention by the miniature sized dessert plate! It was more than plenty- by that point I was stuffed. 

 We continued the evening with karaoke, and another good friend, Michele, joined us. With tambourines and maracas we crooned and shimmied for 2 hours! Oh the entertainment. 

 I received many wonderful email messages and facebook posts from family and friends all over the world. This particular email made me chuckle! 

And this photo and message made me grin like the cheshire cat! I can't wait to meet my nephew- March 20th can't come soon enough!! 

I feel so loved from all of you! 

Thank you

First 2 weeks of November

A few noteworthy excursions over the last 3 weekends.

1. A day trip to Yamanashi Prefecture and the 5 lakes around Mount Fuji. I borrowed the best bike in the world (cannondale below) and combined with smoothly paved roads around the lakes, and crisp autumn air and color, I enjoyed the rides immensely.

2. I am no artist, but Romica invited me to an art and wine event on the military base (hence all the Americans- mainly moms and teachers). Dans, I think you did a similar activity relatively recently (a red background with some birds on a tree??) Ultimately, I was satisfied with the outcome and it will decorate my classroom nicely :)

 3. Festival near Zushi beach. Morning Samurai parade and afternoon Yabusame- traditional archery on horseback dating back to this beach location over 900 years ago!

This is Halloween...

Happy Halloween!

Our school went all out for Halloween. For the last month, my class has teamed up with the 1st grade class to learn a dance routine to Ghostbusters. The 10 students then performed on Halloween day for some very excited parents during our joint class party. 

I had the students help with the decorations of the room (Mindcraft creepers, Halloween themed paper chain and a few other bits and pieces). All students were allowed to come in costume for the day and I had: a Ghostbuster, Vampire, Olaf (the snowman) and 2 Elsas (from Frozen). 

My floor team (Adam- Kindergarten teacher, Seiko- Kindergarten teacher, and Jo- 1st grade teacher) all teamed up to be the main characters from the Wizard of Oz. 

As it turned out, the Wizard of Oz is not known AT ALL in Japan, so that night when I decided to go out to Tokyo for Halloween night with my apartment friends, I decided to change my costume. Being very last minute- I had to pull something out of my closet in about 20 minutes. My solution was an 80s girl- and I had all the pieces! Leg warmers, star-spandex, thick belt, off the shoulder shirt, finger-less gloves, side pony-tail, big earrings, purple eyeshadow...I thought I pulled it off. Turns out it was too "normal" by Japanese standards and I was even asked at the club if I was dressed up!! Haha! 

Japanese interpret Halloween as an opportunity to be as gory and scary as possible! So when we headed into Tokyo there were a ton of bloody brides, and very intricate face paint of wounds and blood! Check out this news about Shibuya on Halloween. 

So that night, about 15 of my Eda apartment-mates headed into Tokyo- Shibuya to be exact and were met by millions of costume-clad revelers! 

I attempted to take some photos of the night. But this video montage has a much better display of what happened that night!

My German friend, Ken (tallest guy) with new Waldo friends!

 Where's Waldo was a HUGE hit! (what a simple costume, right?) But Ken made friends with other Waldos wherever we went, and took many photos with them!

Still crowded at 5am the next morning!